Friendship: The secrets to choosing friends and how to manage them
Do you know that you can accurately predict where you'll be five years from now? You can easily know which direction you are headed, what you'll be doing, and what your income level will be like.
You want to know how? The answer is simple: by the company you keep. The friends you associate with have a major impact and influence on your personal success.
You can tell where most people are going to end up in life and why they act the way they do from the set of companies they keep.
Choosing ones company of friends, is something one should pay much attention to. It's so sad that we pay little attention to it this days, but these things we can change.
You need to be deliberate about the kind of people you chose as friends and you should not joke with it.
You can't be friends with everyone but you can be friendly to them
You also need to understand that you only attract your type of friends. And then, if you are the unfriendly type it may be difficult for you to have friends.
And sometimes, you may not know you are acting in an unfriendly manner so you have to check it.
As much as you should not discriminate while choosing friends, you also should not make friends with mediocres.
As much as you should not discriminate while choosing friends, you also should not make friends with mediocres.
You deserve the best as friends.
Friendship and values are inseparable. Your values should determine the set of people you associate with.
Friendship and values are inseparable. Your values should determine the set of people you associate with.
Here are some secrets to choosing the right friends
1 Chose friends with similar values
Have strong values, and at the same time be able to stick with them come what may. When choosing friends, always consider if their values match yours. Friends with similar values save you from compromise and it help accountability.
Have strong values, and at the same time be able to stick with them come what may. When choosing friends, always consider if their values match yours. Friends with similar values save you from compromise and it help accountability.
2 Make friends with people who can help your weaknesses
No one has it all sorted out. We all have strengths and weaknesses. Make friends with people who are stronger in areas you are weak. People who are experts in areas that you aren't. With that everyone wins.
No one has it all sorted out. We all have strengths and weaknesses. Make friends with people who are stronger in areas you are weak. People who are experts in areas that you aren't. With that everyone wins.
3 Choose friends who have thirst for knowledge
It's very dangerous to make friends with people who do not have the desire to learn and don't have a teachable spirit. A wise man whose companions are fools is also a fool.
It's very dangerous to make friends with people who do not have the desire to learn and don't have a teachable spirit. A wise man whose companions are fools is also a fool.
4 Choose friends who celebrate your success
It's not new, that there are actually people who do not want to see their friends go higher than them. Choose friends who will celebrate your little success even when it doesn't appeal to you as something big or worthwhile. This kinds of friends push you to do better. They are always ready to tell you areas you should improve on in whatever you are doing. They are genuinely happy to see you succeed and they'll be first to say. Congratulations!
It's not new, that there are actually people who do not want to see their friends go higher than them. Choose friends who will celebrate your little success even when it doesn't appeal to you as something big or worthwhile. This kinds of friends push you to do better. They are always ready to tell you areas you should improve on in whatever you are doing. They are genuinely happy to see you succeed and they'll be first to say. Congratulations!
5 Choose friends who are intentional
Intentionality separate successful people from mediocres. Choose friends who are deliberate about their life's goals, dreams, visions and work tirelessly to see them come to fulfillment. Intentional people do not live life casually. Stay clear from people whose lives have no direction and are just 'going with flow' as it comes.
Intentionality separate successful people from mediocres. Choose friends who are deliberate about their life's goals, dreams, visions and work tirelessly to see them come to fulfillment. Intentional people do not live life casually. Stay clear from people whose lives have no direction and are just 'going with flow' as it comes.
6 Choose friends who you can be purpose partners with
Purpose partners are people who you can share your goals and dreams with and they help you in achieving them. When you tell your purpose partners what you intend to do, they can help you stay focused even in the face of trials. Even when you don't see any reason to carry on they will be there to help you. Their shoulder will always be there for you to lean on.
Purpose partners are people who you can share your goals and dreams with and they help you in achieving them. When you tell your purpose partners what you intend to do, they can help you stay focused even in the face of trials. Even when you don't see any reason to carry on they will be there to help you. Their shoulder will always be there for you to lean on.
7 Choose friends who dish out the truth to you even when it hurts
Faithful are the wounds of a friend but the kisses of an enemy is deceitful. A friend who is ready to risk his or her friendship for you to be successful in life is a true friend. After telling you the truth, I lose
out, no problem.
Managing your friendship
1 Accept your differences
2 Be honest with each other
3 Avoid the blame game
4 Trust: A relationship that is built on mistrust has been destroyed already from the start.
5 Understand each other
Faithful are the wounds of a friend but the kisses of an enemy is deceitful. A friend who is ready to risk his or her friendship for you to be successful in life is a true friend. After telling you the truth, I lose
out, no problem.
Managing your friendship
1 Accept your differences
2 Be honest with each other
3 Avoid the blame game
4 Trust: A relationship that is built on mistrust has been destroyed already from the start.
5 Understand each other
6 Value each other
The apex of true friendship is sacrifice. As much as you need friends who can do all these for you, also do same for your friends. Don't expect what you can't give from your friends. Be ready to sacrifice for your friends.
Take time to evaluate your Friendships and see if they meet the criteria above. If you need to change your set of friends, please do. Did these help you in any way? I will like to know and feel free to drop any other criteria we should consider in making friends apart from the ones here in the comment box too.
Have a blessed week!
Take time to evaluate your Friendships and see if they meet the criteria above. If you need to change your set of friends, please do. Did these help you in any way? I will like to know and feel free to drop any other criteria we should consider in making friends apart from the ones here in the comment box too.
Have a blessed week!
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